Relationships are like snowflakes – from far away they all seem the same, but a closer inspection reveals no two are ever identical. As your environment changes, the snowflake too can either thrive or melt. While there is no strict ‘how to’ guide for a healthy relationship if you remember these six rules you will be a step closer to building a healthier relationship, whether it’s with your mother, brother, lover or child.
Take an interest in their interests
If someone is passionate about something, it’s important that you don’t brush that aside. Passions and interests play a crucial role in shaping our personalities and relationships. If you take an interest in a loved one’s hobbies, not only will this bring you a heightened understanding of them, but it will bring you together intimately with new topics of conversation, activities and even jokes that you can share together.
Really listen to them
And I mean really listen to them. We all have ideas and opinions, and we are all searching for someone to communicate them with. Even if you have been with your partner for two decades, it’s still important to listen to their wants and needs. People change, so don’t make assumptions or you could find yourself missing out on some major relationship milestones or worse, red flags.
Don’t hide away
As tempting as routine might be, every now and again it’s good to step out of your comfort zone. Try something new, dress up and go out, share experiences and create memories together. You never know what stories the two of you might discover and share by simply stepping out of your relationship bubble and into the world together.
Take care of your own health and well-being because it will leave you with more energy to invest in others. If you’re depleted, your interactions with others will be hindered. Taking time for yourself is not selfish – in fact, sometimes it’s the exact opposite!
You get what you give
Don’t expect someone to move mountains for you if you’re not willing to do the same in return. Honestly ask yourself, ‘would I do this for them?’ before you make a judgement on what someone is or isn’t doing in your relationship.
Please and thank you have the power to completely change someone’s day. No matter how comfortable you get with someone, remember these important words.
While couples counselling is already well known for helping couples reach a better understanding of each other, individual relationship counselling is just as important to ensure you are a supportive partner without compromising your own needs and well-being. Discover more about how I can help you with your relationship today.