Mistakes are a part of life, and sometimes the big ones can impact our relationships. If you’re looking to move forward, trust is the first thing that needs to be rebuilt for the relationship to continue to grow. Here are 7 steps to help rebuild trust.
Make the decision to move forward
Whether you are deciding to forgive or are asking to be forgiven, the first step is making the decision to love one another. You need to move forward from the past and begin the next step, which is repairing and rebuilding.
Now is not the time to hold secrets or make judgements. You need to be transparent and forthcoming if you hope to show honesty.
Figure out where both of you stand and what you hope for in the future. This isn’t easy, because you might discover you are at a crossroads. Instead of being upset, talk through why each of you wants the things you do.
Make the conscious effort to not only listen to the words being said but to take in the complete message that is being communicated to you. Practise active listening to each other from not only the head but also the heart.
The blame game helps no one. In order to move forward in your relationship, you must be able to take responsibility for your actions and learn from your past behaviours. Otherwise, history will repeat itself.
Recognise that rebuilding trust takes time
Just like a warzone, damage can be done in an instant, but it can take months, or even years to repair. Understand that rebuilding trust is not an easy fix, but it is a constant journey you will be on with not only your partner, but also yourself.
Be open to counselling
Sometimes, we need a little bit of extra help to understand how things were broken and how you can make them get better. Both individual relationship counselling and couples counselling are effective ways to help rebuild trust with your partner. Just like your relationship, counselling is a commitment and a journey that if approached honestly, can completely transform your life.