When you’re spending hours upon hours with people in your life, from family members in the home to colleagues at work, you can sense when things change. Perhaps they’re no longer as chatty as they once were or maybe you’ve spotted them with a frown more often than not. While your instinct might be … [Read more]
Working with couples who have a trauma history
John yanked open the curtains at 10.30 am. Light flooded the bedroom as he placed their one year old baby on Susanne as she stumbled into wakefulness, bleary eyed and confused. “He’s been asking for you,” said John, disappearing downstairs. In his new role as ‘house-husband’, (after being made … [Read more]
Never enough time? Here’s how to get a handle on it
Many of us have a fraught relationship with time. It seems there are never enough hours in the day to achieve all that is required of us. But how we choose to approach time — even as little as 15 minutes — can result in very different outcomes. Here is an imagined conversation between me and my … [Read more]
How to avoid sending mixed messages
It is important to understand that every time you talk, all of you talks. Whenever you use words, your face, body, muscles, voice, breath all speak too. If there are discrepancies between what you are saying and what you are doing, then you are being incongruent and sending out mixed messages. If, … [Read more]
Listening to problems
Listening is caring. And caring is healing. How many of us really know how to listen? How many of us feel obligated to offer advice or say something brilliant? We cannot be actively listening if we are busy formulating our response. Think back to when you last needed to share a problem. Did you … [Read more]