What seems like a great idea at first can sometimes prove to have negative consequences in unexpected areas of your life.
Before you sign a lease with a housemate to save on your weekly rent or help reduce your mortgage payments, ask yourself – is living with a housemate the best decision for your romantic relationship?
Moving in with someone is a big step romantically, so why don’t we place the same emphasis on people who we share our homes with non-romantically? Housemates will always come with their own quirks, and what is endearing or normal to you may not be seen in the same way by your partner.
More often than not, your housemates will have the best intentions, but sometimes personalities clash and there is nothing wrong with that. This is something that you should be mindful of when pursuing romantic relationships. While you feel comfortable in your own home, your partner might not enjoy having a housemate able to hear intimate details of their life.
In any event, it’s great to regularly check in with both your housemate and your romantic partner to make sure no boundaries are being crossed. If you ignore the warning signs of discomfort between one or more parties, you might see your romantic relationship end early or a housemate relationship turn sour.
Sometimes our housemates are family and we feel the need to help care for them. The advice remains the same – while they might have the best intentions, having your mother walking into your bedroom occasionally might remove the feeling of privacy and security.
For long-term arrangements like this, couples counselling can be beneficial to help talk through any feelings of apprehension or discomfort that might be brewing because of your living situation. Additionally, if you want to understand more about how to best take care of yourself when a conflict between housemates and lovers arises, individual relationship counselling offers the ability to speak freely and explore your own anxieties while trying to find the right balance for you.